Chanel Miller – Turning Her Pain Into a Rallying Cry with “Know My Name” | The Daily Show

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-Welcome to The Daily Show.
-Thank you, Trevor. And congratulations on a book
that is drawing accolades from every single person
who has read it. It’s a powerful story.
The book is titled Know My Name. For a long time,
you were anonymous, and then you chose
to come out with your name and your full story. Why? Well, I wanted the title
to be declarative and definitive, to say I am choosing
to step forward and I’m not going
to hide anymore, because this is not my burden
to carry. I feel like, at this point, I know who I am, I know what I’m worth and I know what I’m capable of. And when you know yourself
on that deep level, it becomes very hard
to mess with you. -Oh, I like that.
-(cheering and applause) I feel like… I feel like that’s what the
story in the book is all about. You know, you-you wrote down your experiences
on the pages of this book, and you write beautifully, but it’s also painful
and triumphant at the same time. How long did it take you to-to move
from a place in your life where you were only thinking
about the pain to then moving to a place
where you’re like, “No, I’m going to turn this
into my triumph and I’m going to turn this
into a rallying cry”? Mm. Well, one Post-it note
I had next to my desk as I was writing just said,
“Feel what I felt.” It was very important for me
to just acknowledge every feeling I had experienced, to not tuck any of them away and to lay it out on the page. And it’s funny,
because I worked so hard to get on the paper exactly what
I was feeling inside. -Right.
-And as soon as that aligned, it would click
and I would move on and I wouldn’t think much
about it. But when I was on Oprah, she picked up the book and, as she was reading passages
to me, I was listening and I was like, “Damn, like,
that’s really good.” (laughter) (cheering and applause) Yeah, that’s, uh… that’s what–
that’s what Oprah does. -She, uh… She’ll read
your book to you, -Yeah. and then you’re like,
“I need to buy my book.” You’re like…
(laughs) -I know. I’m a genius. I just…
-Right. But-but I– but I understand
why so many people are connecting with it, because
the book is not just powerful in that it tells your story. It, unfortunately,
tells the story of so many other women
out there, -not just in America
but in the world. -Yeah. You know,
the Brock Turner case was one where everyone felt like
the case wasn’t handled well. Everyone felt aggrieved
on your behalf. You-you had–
you had this story, where it-it was cut-and-dry. -Yeah. -And you talk about it
in the book. You talk about the pain,
the shame and how people tried
to shift it to you. What do you– what do you hope
people will learn about being a victim
of sexual assault and how hard it is
to share your story? I write in the book, “Your character is not what
caused your hurts to happen.” And as you go
through this process, you will find people
who try to intimidate you, who will scare you
into silence, people who want
to humiliate you and tell you that you are crazy
and you are small. And I want to say, you are not crazy,
and you are not small. So, know your truth, hold on to that truth, and it will carry you
where you need to go. (applause and cheering) Just… Just one of the more powerful
passages in the book is where you talk
about the actual assault. And because
you were blacked out, you have to tell the story
partly from what you remember, and then, using the account of
the Swedes who came to your aid. You know, those two Swedish men who came and-and chased
Brock Turner and-and basically filled in -the-the pieces of the puzzle,
you know? -Mm. What’s interesting is-is what
you write about them, and you say, it made you realize
that it wasn’t… You know,
in all of these stories, it’s not just the person
that is doing the bad thing and the person that
the bad thing is being done to. But there are those who see it
and identify it as wrong, -and they do something about it.
-Yeah. Why was it so important for you
to speak about it in that way? Can I just say
that one of the Swedes, Carl, is here
in the audience tonight? So can we just clap? (applause and cheering) Oh, wow. (applause and cheering) Um, any time you see him
on the street, you are now required to clap. (laughter) Um, it’s so unbelievable to me the clarity of mind
that they had, to jump into action, to not only tackle him
and pin him to the ground, but they were speaking to him,
saying, “What the F are you doing? “Do you think this is okay? Apologize to her.” They wanted to make sure
I was being taken care of. And I think, for me,
on the same night where one of the most
terrible things happened, this miracle happened,
which is that I was saved. And so, as I went
through the trial and I was stuck
in sort of the darker parts and really down on myself,
I still had this hope that there are people out there
who want me to get better, who are doing the right thing, and I just have
to keep following that part, and that’s how I’m going
to get out on the other side. I mean,
if there’s guys like that that exist in this world, why do we lower
our expectations…? -(applause)
-Yeah? Thank you. (applause and cheering) Yeah. Yeah. We don’t… we don’t need
to make excuses for predators. We don’t need
to make excuses for people who don’t know how to treat
another person decently, who don’t know
right from wrong, because there are people
sitting here who do. -Wow.
-Yeah. -(applause and cheering)
-The book is a celebration. The book is a journey,
it’s powerful. The book is your life. Thank you
for sharing it with us. -Thank you. -And congratulations
on everything. -Thank you.
-Know My Name, a beautiful story,
is available now. Chanel Miller, everybody.

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