High School Help ✏️? (Stress, Bullies, Friends, College)

High School Help ✏️? (Stress, Bullies, Friends, College)

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*sits down* oh no i got some stuff in my eye *strange noises* HellO Hey guys, it’s Conan and today. I am going to help you survive high school I get a lot of questions about high school Since we’re all kind of like the same age and you guys thought that I was a good high schooler I get a lot of questions about it Everyone’s kind of asking the same questions, and I guess people aren’t really answering them for them So I thought I would try my best to answer them since I have officially survived high school myself Now I’m going to college What? How did that happen and since I was such a good high schooler and I totally didn’t get my health class 27 times… I thought I’ll give you some tips on how to survive high school non sarcastically I actually had a really fantastic high school experience and since I’m an incoming freshman at UCLA and a lot of you guys Really want to go to a school like UCLA like a big state school or a private school or just a school that’s hard to get into I thought I would share my high school experience and hopefully answer some questions for you guys that are kind of nervous about the future of high school and Kind of nervous about the future of getting into college I thought I would just get the questions that I see most commonly and Try to use my experience to hopefully make your experience better. Let’s do this.One of the questions I get asked the most about is making friends and the process of making friends and what can hopefully help you make some friends Making friends is totally not as hard as you think it is for most of Middle school and even some of high school I was very very very very shy, but I still ended up making so many amazing supportive outgoing beautiful friends and don’t think that just because you’re shy you won’t be able to make any friends because I still made friends But if you are shy like me it is a tiny bit harder to make friends because it’s really hard for you to like go Out of your way to talk to someone when trying to make friends. I say don’t really bother aiming for a certain friend group or a certain Person because that’s really hard to do and it’s a bit unnatural like it’s hard to know that you want to become friends with someone Just because you see them walking around in the hallways or something like that if you’re thinking about becoming friends Someone just because of their social status or something like that totally not worth it when I was in high school The group of popular kids really wanted to bring me into their group right when they found out that I was famous There was the most boring people. I think I’ve ever met in my entire life I’m so sorry to the popular kids who might be watching this but y’all are super boring all they ever wanted to do was party And drink and it just wasn’t my saying it was super boring. Don’t pay any mind to social status I made all of my friends through the classes that I had with friends and good news for shy kids You really only need to make one friend in order to make a friend group That is the beauty of friendship is you really only need one friend So you only need to be uncomfortable one time and then after that? You don’t have to worry about it that much you can trust me when I say that you only need one friend I have moved 14 times in my life. I am always the new kid I made a lot of friends And it was always just because all you ever have to do is make one Friend because the thing is you make one friend and then that friend brings you to all of their friends? And then you have a friend group, and it’s so much fun And you have supported people in your life now to make that one friend I would suggest just making little Interactions it never happens like it does in the movies where the kids like seeing someone is like I want to be their friend, and then all then they walk over there like can I be your friend? I think if someone did that to me I feel very uncomfortable Because I don’t know that it might work, but it’s kind of weird all of my friends one of the main reasons why I started talking to them was just because I had class with them, and I started asking them questions about the homework and sort of talking to them about the teacher their friends and about their family and about what they liked to do and it just Naturally flows like that like it’s not this big. Oh, I want to be your friend I’m going to go up to you and attack you with my friendship it just doesn’t really happen like that also You don’t want to be friends with someone who you don’t know anything about so even for you You know it’s better to have this slow process of getting to know someone to know if you really even want to be their friend Because if you all have different interests and are completely different people Then you probably don’t want to be their friend say hi to that person every day compliment them on whatever They’re wearing try to do all your group projects with them and then over time you just randomly realize oh This person is my friend, and I really love them And they’re super amazing and I’m going to spend as much time with them as I possibly can wham-bam A friend now if you’re a naturally outgoing person, please go out of your way to become friends with the shy kids They will really appreciate it. I definitely appreciated it next is how to balance school and having fun. I just like during high school I had a very healthy amount of fun and school and only reason why I had such a healthy mix of that was because I did not Procrastinate I was not a procrastinator the absolute hardest time of my high school experience was around my sophomore year of high school I hadn’t learned how to not procrastinate yet And I was getting swamped with so much homework that it just kind of made me feel so exhausted All the time and mental health was at an all-time low I just couldn’t do anything It was a really hard time in my high school experience And it was because I was making mistakes and my efficiency I would do homework at night when I was already tired when I already had a full day of things and I really just wanted To go to bed. I started homework then, of course you’re not going to be able to be doing homework That’s when your brain is like Dying do your homework with a friend? right after school that was when high school was the easiest for me when I one had a friend who a super super supportive and Helped me Do my homework and when I did it right after school when it was still day time when I still had energy? And my brain was still alert and fresh with the new information that I’d learned during the day then I’d knock out the homework with one of my friends It’d be super fun because I was doing it with a friend and then afterwards I’m hanging out with my friend and we’d have lots of fun and knowing that after you finished the homework with your friend You’re going to be able to run around in a park and be stupid and be teenager is So much nicer than having a bunch of fun, but the whole time you’re having fun There’s this like giant cloud of stuff that you have to do just looming over your head I can’t stand that and there is a lot of fun involved in doing homework one of your friends me And my friend Ashley have literally a book, a small book that we’ve written With all of our inside jokes in it because we have so many inside jokes. They’re so stupid They don’t make any sense But they were all created while I was doing homework with her so try to find a friend is going to support you is going to push you to work hard and really have what’s best for you, and that friend in mind while you guys are doing homework and Knock it out don’t procrastinate so that you can actually Have fun while you’re in high school if you find that you’re doing seven to eight hours of homework every single day There’s definitely something that you’re doing wrong you either Have way too much of a workload and you definitely need to like not have as much or you’re just being very inefficient which leads into How it’s a handle stress best tip I could ever give to any high school student or any college student or anyone? Who’s busy ever is to get a planner? I know it’s a cliche, but this thing really Freaking saved my life there were so many times when I had so much to do and I Really just wanted to die in a hole, but I just wrote everything down organized what I needed to stress about and it just Makes everything a lot easier to swallow I use the heck out of this planner There’s something really cathartic about the process of writing everything you need to do down So just get a planner if you ever feel any stress about school ever get a planner Just do it. Stop being stupid just do it the sad fact about school and being in high school is it’s stressful It just is it’s a stressful time of our lives It’s very confusing you’re trying to figure out what your identity is what your future is. You’re trying to figure out college And you’re trying to figure out the people around you and you’re falling in love and you’re falling out of love There’s so many crazy first things happening while you’re in high school It’s bound to be stressful in times when I was very very stressed during high school It was always amazing to just Talk out my stress to a friend to a parent to a teacher to anyone who listened I? Cried to my art teacher more times than I think I’ve ever cried to anyone else I have cried with my best friend. I have an amazing support group Who is there to listen to you, and everyone should have that because when you’re stressed out? It makes it so much harder It’s all on you when there’s someone out there Who’s listening and who has the same problems and who will be there to kind of go through? What you’re stressing about with you. It makes it so much easier there is no shame in talking about being stressed out to someone that you’re close with writing music and making art was also a Really good way of me speaking out the things that were on my mind so also consider having something that Kind of helps you process your thoughts it can be art it can be music It can be a sport it can be really anything that you enjoy next is a big one which is how to Deal with the bullying here is some fantastic news for kids who are in Middle school that are going into high school Bullying is not Near as much of a problem as it is in middle school as it is in high school every single one of my friends Agreed with me on this. It’s not just amazing in high school kids Don’t care about other kids kids are already swamped with enough things They don’t really bother making fun of other kids Especially as you get further and further into the year when you’re having more classes and more things to worry about the kids don’t really care About each other they’re not trying to you know Despite other kids just to get off on it’s like not a thing that happens in High school I went to a public high school in the middle of conservative, Texas, and you think that the kids were really mean But you’d be very surprised kids these days Thanks to the internet are a million times more tolerant of other kids than they were let’s say Maybe 30 40 years ago with that being said there are mean people They just always exist no matter what they exist in the workplace when you are an adult There’s always mean people that just like to be mean because they are insecure and they have to deal with their own problems People who are mean to other people they need to work that anger out within themselves? That’s not something you have to fix. I promise you that there’s nothing that you are doing wrong Don’t make it your responsibility to fix these kids tell a teacher tell it all if someone’s mean to you you Don’t need to feel with bullying teachers need to deal with bullying Administrators need to deal with the bullying you don’t the few times that I was harassed or heckled in the school hallways or in I told a teacher I got so many kids under detention so many times in my school I was a bit of a target because I’d rested. I mean I talked differently did different things in them You know I was making videos and writing music while they were all in football. So any times anything never happened I just told a teacher. There’s no shame in telling a teacher at a kid is Following you around or something also if you have friends. They will always stick up for you my friends were extremely protective of me They knew that I was a bit of a target because I live in a small town, and I was semi Famous I hate using the word famous, but I had a bit of attention while I was in high school They were very protective of me They were always like don’t dare say anything about Conan So having a friend group is very very good next up is college planning and what you should be doing When water break came? freshman and sophomore year of high school don’t even bother about Planning what college you’re going to and what major you’re going to go to? Because you don’t really need to know at that time and most kids don’t know just work really hard in school Simple as that do not slack on your classes, especially Freshman year underclassmen years are really important because although you think that they don’t matter they’re going to really mess up your gPA if you don’t work really hard and Freshmen and sophomore year are the easiest years of high school So why not get a head start while is still easy? Something that you should be focusing on in freshman and sophomore year of High school though is definitely discovering what you’re passionate about what parents these days don’t really understand about college as College isn’t what it used to be ecologists. Don’t want kids who have perfect grades of perfect sat scores and perfect sat scores and Perfect scores on the Ap test sure they like that But that’s not what they really really want especially the big schools and big Colleges that you know have the names to them that parents all whenever you tell them that you’re going to what colleges want to see these days are kids who are extremely passionate about one thing and Stuck to that the whole entire time I did not get into ucLa because of my grade. I got in because of my I had good grades. I had a very high gPA I got decent sat sat scores but they weren’t hot I got a 1290 on the sat that’s not high what? Ucla likes so much about me was the fact that I had passion was the fact that I’ve been making Youtube videos for nine Years They want to see that kids have a certain things they really love and they’re really working towards you can write in your essay Oh, I really like engineering But they don’t care if you like engineering they want proof that you like engineering and that you’ve been working towards Engineering they want to see that you’ve been in engineering classes for four years They want to see that you’re working on things outside of school that are engineering related They don’t want an assay that says oh I love art it speaks to me art speaks to a lot of people They want to know that you were born with a paintbrush in your hand and that you have so much passion for this one thing That you want to do it for the rest of your lives obviously a lot of kids don’t have that one thing That’s like. This is my thing that’s okay. That’s totally okay for kids You don’t have something that they really are super passionate about Work really hard because it is harder to get into the school seeming like someone who’s a master of none which sounds offensive But it’s not it’s super normal. It’s not offensive at all work really hard in your classes to make sure that you get into a very big school that has a lot of Opportunities and a lot of pathways that you can go down junior year is kind of when it actually starts to matter What classes you’re taking you don’t have to know what you want to do with the rest of your life by Junior year? You can absolutely change the route of your entire life while you’re in college, but if you don’t know what you want to do That’s perfectly okay Just work really hard on all of your core classes that way you have more Opportunities when you start applying schools take the sat take the ap key take Ap classes colleges still like to see good scores on that Having good grades is never going to hurt your chances of getting into a school and then when senior year comes around You apply do not apply to 20 schools so many of my friends were very smart We’re like the top ten people in their class you know grade wise but they applied like twenty schools while they were in their senior year of high school and every single one of Them regretted it. Nobody was like wow I’m so glad I applied to 25 schools Nobody said that apply to a few that you actually Think you’re going to go to if you don’t want to go to a certain school. Don’t apply to it Don’t apply because of parents like oh, you should apply to 30 schools. That’s stupid. Don’t listen to that parent I applied to four schools one school was a Fallback school That was a school that I knew I was going to get into that sounds really arrogant but it just according to my grades and according to my Extracurriculars I kind of was able to predict that I’d get in I I kind of knew that I’d get in the second school that I applied to was a Maybe it was I could get in I could also not get in it was kind of a little bit more Iffy But there still was a chance that I’d get in and then the last two schools I applied to were far shots crazy schools that I totally did not think I would get into I ended up getting into Three out of the four schools that I applied to which means that one of the crazy shot No idea that I get into really thought I didn’t get into schools. I got into which is ucLa Which is a school that I actually am going to when choosing those four schools to apply to you Have to keep different factors in mind like money and location but truly if you have this massive Passion for one thing and there’s a certain school that you really want to go to and you’ve wanted to go to your whole life You can find a way to make it work I truly believe that the too far shot schools that I didn’t think I would get into or ucLa and Berkeley I got wait-listed by both UcLa and Berkeley But the second that I found out that I actually got into ucLa I rejected my berkeley application because I always knew that I wanted to go to ucLa that was my dream school Which is proof there is no harm in applying to a school that you don’t think you’re going to get into I’m not Being a humble when I say that I didn’t think that I’d get into ucLa I really didn’t think I’d get it my grades Just weren’t close to good enough, and I felt stupid because I’ve been making Youtube videos for nine Years But that was one of the main reasons Why I got in because I had this clear passion for one thing and I’ve been working for nine years of my life to reach The goal of actually working in the music industry apply to your dream schools. Just do it. There’s no harm. You’ll maybe lose 70 bucks Seventy bucks for a chance to go to the school that you’ve always wanted to go to if nothing goes to plan can always go To community college. I hate that there is stigma with going to community colleges. They are affordable They make sense and you can transfer into an amazing school afterwards I don’t understand why people don’t like community colleges if you don’t get into the school of your dreams Do not worry go to community college work really hard and reapply And I believe in you and everyone believes in you you can do this those are all of my high school tips I really hope they help and Help you survive high school like I did I survive high school, and it was a lot of fun actually college advice I cannot give you because I am going to college now, and I have no idea What I’m doing so if you are a college student or if you are a college student at UcLa the school that I’m going to Please please help me. Please, please give me your most valuable tips in the comment I would really appreciate that that would help me a lot for everyone who was in high school Or is about to go to high school. Please don’t worry It’s not at all like people Say it is high School Is what you make it go to your pep Rallies go to your football game go to your basketball games hang out with your friends Do the stupid high school cliches you won’t regret any of it with that I’m going to go I have been sitting on this chair for 40 minutes And my knee pits are slight if you know anymore very valuable high school lessons Please feel free to put them in the comments below I’m sure that other people scrolling through the comments would really appreciate those obviously I’m not an all-knowing being so um if I’m wrong about anything or if you have anything to add We help me be a better influence to the world let’s all get through high school and college together I’ll see you guys in a few days of the brand new video. God bless and goodbye (Outro song by Conan Gray- Other Side) (This is on Spotify)

100 thoughts on “High School Help ✏️? (Stress, Bullies, Friends, College)”

  1. Conan ur videos calm me down so much. I was in the middle of stressing about my grades/studying for a test and this video (among ur other ones) just make me sooo happy and I really appreciate u and ur content. Keep doing u and inspiring so many people! 🙂

  2. high school anxiety at a peak
    -trying to get over some dude who makes me feel like shit
    -realising I will be 60 by the time I have my first kiss
    -so much art homework ahhh
    -but the most stupid friends who keep me sane (and make me feel slightly more normal when insane)
    imma miss it and I really am not

  3. i'm literally a sophomore going through the same thing that conan said he went through right now ugh school is going to kill me

  4. I always make one friend from a different group, but it’s kind of sad when they go with their group but it’s fun to be with different people! I made a friend from the ‘well-known” people and they’re actually cool and free-spirited, as well as the more studious and personal and shy groups. It’s very interesting finding out all these different personalities because i learnt to be more open-minded and kinder i guess :))

  5. I remember watching this video when I was a junior in high school and now, I’m a senior in high school. I’m not necessarily scared of the future but more excited. UCLA! jk nah

  6. How I became friends with my current girlfriend 7years before we started dating

    Hey I like your hair its poofy

    *facepalms aggressively*

  7. awe you are literally so inspirational and super relatable, my far reach school is ucla too:))) but my gpa hasnt been too great, i was wondering if u could do a video on how to stay on task and not procrasinate and stay motiavated during school.

  8. It's like no one wants to talk to me I'm so Lonely literally been like this for years and now I'm in 6th grade hxhsbdhs blah

  9. hey conan you're probably not gonna see this but if you do, i really want to let you know that im really thankful for this video. i think a lot of people are. youre (as far as i know) such a good human being. i love you. ive been bingewatching your videos for 4 hours now. i hope ill meet u someday.

  10. socially anxious person here uh
    i’ll pass on the whole friends thing
    i’m basically an emo wallflower? i’ll stick to myself lmao

  11. okay, i know conan was like don't decide who is gonna be your friend based of looks at them butttt first class of the day i walk in sit down look to my right and was like i wanna be friends w/ them idk why and then later that day i found out they like panic and top etc. and it was so weird cause i could just tell?

    p.s. it must have been dumb luck cause nobody else likes those bands in my school (except the friends i got into it)

  12. But I have to stop procrastinating, mkay. Yeah I start my homework at 12 am. I just gotta do homework right after school, Okidokes. I suppose I just need a friend aha

  13. “Wam Bam. A friend.” ??? I’m so shy and my friends are all way extroverted and I’m so small and introverted and awkward. I’m so grateful for them all and I love them all and I don’t k ow how it happened but I’m glad it did

  14. Conan: Stop procrastinating
    Me: … ha… ha… ha ha.
    I was so good at not procrastinating until sophomore year, and now as a junior, I'm doomed…

  15. I don’t think I’m shy. I’m just very very very very VERY antisocial…. but anyways I love you conan!!!!!!!!!

  16. The tip about making one friend basically describes how I made friends at my new school last year! I just sat alone in one of the first classes and this other person sat down next to me becasue we were both alone and now were friends, and I got two other friends as well!! I am still trying to talk and interact with the others in my class, but honestly I barely tried and people chose to talk to me???

  17. I’m in my first year of high school (I go to a Canadian school) so I’m grade 8 but I always procrastinate there is always a grey cloud over my head and I feel super stressed because even if I try my hardest I just feel so unmotivated and stressed and this video is giving me hope thank you cone so much

  18. You should honestly make a podcast about high school stresses and how to over come school anxiety ❤️❤️ support you the most

  19. Making friends must be natural.. I know many friends but have one. One can be enough when you're shy and kinda introvert. I finished high school and making friends in collage is just the same. Except there are many more people in your class.

  20. The American school system seems so so so stressful for students. From what I understand, as soon as you're 13 your grades start counting as your GPA and this GPA is your acces key to great colleges? Where I live, if you graduate highschool, you can literally get into any school you want(as long as you can afford it). Sometimes there are entry exams to see if you're smart enough for difficult degrees, but technically, you're not limited by mistakes you made in your most immature and reckless years of your life.

  21. I gotta say that 8th grade was the worst when it came to bullying, but as soon as I hit freshmen year, things died down a bit. Sure I still got insults and stuff thrown at me but it was nowhere as bad as 8th grade was, and now I can sit in the library and not be worried about the other kids. high school is stressful but its more peaceful

  22. I can make friends in my grade but DEAR LORD trying to make friends in other grades is SO HARD because we don’t have classes together so I have to muster up the courage to talk to them in the hallway or online and it’s rough tbh

  23. I am 'talented' in art, music , singing , dancing … At least that's what people say . Because i like and do so many things I can't figure out which one i love the most is my thing … Helppppp

  24. As a current freshman (going into sophomore year 2019-2020) freshman year really does feel like a breeze. As someone who is trans, I was always scared that i would get picked on immediately; but other people really don't care as much as you'd think.
    On top of that; YES. Please do NOT procrastinate. In my first semester, I procrastinated a lot, but a big role in that was that, while at the school i was attending at the time, I was extremely depressed, and as a result, missed school more than needed. I did switch to the school in my neighborhood, and improved much more, but struggled when i had to get pulled out for independent studies. I procrastinated a lot because i was not used to the materials and thus my grades dropped again.
    One tip for this is to use the sources you are given. I go to tutoring when i begin to fall behind or need an extra push, and am doing APEX in order to catch up on credits.

  25. conan is so right about how outgoing people should be friends with shy people. Shy people are always so sweet and loyal
    luv u conan <3

  26. I’m an Aries and my closest friend is an Aquarius (easily makes friends) she talks to so many other people and I’m not trying to say she’s not allowed to talk to other people but once she and my second closest friend met a girl one year older than us, all three of them always hung out recess and lunch, and whenever I hung out with them one of them would say ‘I wanna hang out with R’ and the other would say ‘me too’ it made me feel really bad and I felt like a bad friend and I thought I was going to lose them, when I got home I ran up to my bed and started crying I’d also always be going to the washroom to cry but a few days later she started to hate them and they don’t even know why, I feel bad for them but I also kind of don’t idk I might just be a bad person

  27. I’m graduating next year, so it’s pretty late for me to watch this, but it’s rlly helpful. I definitely needed this. Thanks ?

  28. Your advice about stress and balancing school and fun really stuck a cord with me. Like honestly I've been feeling exhausted for the past week or two (mostly because of my torn knee legiment but whatever) anyway, yeah. I totally related to being exhausted, and the feeling of knowing that there is a looming presence of work if I decide to not do it during the day. If I decide to "just do it tonight", it's always in the back of my mind if I do that. Thannnk you Conan <3

  29. Going into highschool, I cant help being excited, and it's all thanks to you. I really believe in the fact that highschool is what you make it. Its gonna be 1 million times better than middle school, I know that much.

  30. Thank you so much Conan! You help me so much, really thankful for your advices! Keep doing the good work!

  31. I know this will be lost in the comments and people usually don't like the popular kids but. I'm afraid as hell, I know that your social status doesn't matter but I worked so hard to be where I'm at now. After attempts of suicide and bad social anxiety, I'm happy now. I'm happy with where I'm at and I'm happy with my social status. I feel important even though I feel like my friends aren't real. But what will happen next year? Will my popularity be gone? I probably sound like such an asshole. I'm sorry. But talking about it made me feel a little better. Can anyone relate?
    – an overthinker

  32. I’m going to a early college high school I don’t think I could relate to this excerpt for the friends part ??‍♀️

  33. im about to lose one of my very very best friends due to both of our circumstances. he means so goddamn much to me and i know that he cares about me too. we both do not want to lose each other. the worse part is, all of my other friends are gonna get to be with him. i only have contact with one of my best friends. eventually, she'll get tired of me. then i will be so alone. everyone else will get to be with him then theres me. its summer rn. there's like a 40% chance I'll be able to talk to any of them. what do i do?

  34. i met my best friend when he messed with my hair and said, "your hair is floofy". i was like wtf and that was that.

    can i just say how weird it is that all the lgbt peoples somehow found our way to the same friend group? our gayness attracts more gays apparently lol

  35. At school, 4 people friend groups are perfect because big groups are not good bc they’re always getting popular and popular can get ur reputation at risk.

  36. this is being recommended when I need it the most, tomorrow will me my unofficially first day of highschool (in Mexico you have Elementary school, Middle school and Highschool) and I don't know how to feel about it, I'm such an introvert and probably won't make any new friends but let's find out. Thank you for this Cone!

  37. currently making a playlist on high school advice haha. (im probably gonna suck @ the whole procrastination stuff oof)

  38. so i live in another country where you have every class with same people. like those 20 people are your friends, but the problem is that they didn't like me from the start and now i really don't have friends in my class and it's hard attending every class with those people. idk maybe i'm the problem.. (ps. sorry for my bad english)

  39. that is literally so true….like one day i just realised the amount of talking me and my now best friend would do like in the first years of high school and then friendship just HAPPENED

  40. Thank you so much for this I’ve been terrified and having anxiety attacks like every day I think about going into high school. Your video has helped me more than anything anyone has said to me about it. I’m going into my freshman year in two weeks and I’m a lot less afraid of it now ?

  41. What’s so wrong with conservative Texas? ?
    In seriousness thank you for the tips, I’ve been very stressed of what to do going into high school about workload and future planning and this helped me so much ?

  42. Hi im a junior now and I first saw this when I was about to go into my freshman year baby tingz and I have NOT FORGOTTEN about this video because seriously … it is so useful and I think it pushed me into a really good direction with my school experience so far so tysm for being a great and grand role model

  43. ngl I moved schools in year 10 (freshman year in America) and literally I got approached by like four people who just said "do you want to be my best friend" and I got so nervous bc I thought they were joking ?

  44. conan: don't worry about college if you're a freshman or sophomore
    me, just started my freshman year: literally took my act for the first time in the summer and is looking into the colleges i'm interested in, and is already sure on my major.

  45. school already stressing me out , even i’m still a junior high school student. the video helps soo much ! thanks conan !

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