My Experience Dealing With Painful Sex | Tips & Advice

My Experience Dealing With Painful Sex | Tips & Advice

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Hi it’s Kay from Team MUTU – I just
wanted to hop on and start the conversation about painful sex because
when I was dealing with this, experiencing this, I felt very isolated,
lonely, like I was the only one dealing with this. Of course I wasn’t but when
you’re in it that’s kind of how it makes you feel. So by starting this
conversation I am hoping that it helps at least one other woman who’s going
through it, please comment below if you want to share any of your story.
M y experience started after I had my first baby and he was a rather large
baby and caused a lot of birth trauma and as a result I ended up with a
hypotonic pelvic floor, which was causing the pain during sex. I kind of had
sex for the first time after giving birth about eight weeks after and even
then I was kind of like, oh, this is like… I’m not into this, I’m not really feeling
with, but let’s get it done and it was very painful, very, very
painful and I just hoped that next time it would be more enjoyable, but
it wasn’t getting any easier, it wasn’t getting any less painful, so I went to my
GP, my doctor and explained the situation and kind of knew what I wanted, I knew
that I needed to see a woman’s health physiotherapist
(PT if you’re in America), so he kind of said, go away, see if it improves and I
got home and I was like no, I’m not actually happy with that as a
response to what I’ve told you, so I called the surgery and I said please ask
the doctor to refer me to a women’s health physio. I saw my physio for
about ten months, it really took some hard work to
kind of get there and I also used MUTU alongside that and that was key in
mastering the kind of release phase of the pelvic floor engagement, because I
didn’t have a problem holding on, like I didn’t have a problem with that kind of
phase of the Kegel if you like, it was the kind of letting go, like I couldn’t
release properly and the MUTU Breath, the way that it’s explained and
the visualisation, that was key to me learning how to properly
engage and release and then rebuild the strength that I needed in my pelvic
floor. That hand-in-hand with the physio was just key to my recovery,
what I will say is when I was in it, when I was dealing with it I just felt
like it mentally it impacted my mental health massively, impacted my
relationship with my husband, but my tips would be to communicate, so be really
open and honest with your partner if you have a partner, if you don’t then
communicate with your friends. We live in a society that’s very much like
Oh TMI, no, can’t listen but share because I guarantee you there’s probably someone
that has dealt with this and they can offer you support and my last point
would be that this can get better and there is help for you, so please don’t
put up with it because you do deserve to have at the very least pain free and
enjoyable sex, so please see a women’s health PT, subscribe to our YouTube
channel for more content, you can join our community of tens of thousands of
mums around the world by clicking the link below, we will welcome you in with
open arms.

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