These Are The Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist

These Are The Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist

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are you dating in a total jerk? well, if you are you might be dating a narcissist I am here to tell you how to spot a signs of a narcissism is a Dr. Ramani. Dr. Ramani thanks for being here to talk with us about dating a narcissist My pleasure, thank you my favorite kind of topic. Why is this your favorite kind of topic? You know what is it It’s a curiosity to me. I started working with a lot of clients who were i hate the word ,,victimize” but who really hurts by this relationship and I saw a pattern and I though wow we got to help this people but in a systematic way so not only did i really get to helping them but it all culminated in a book that was meant to help everyone who is struggling with this issues but it was remarkable to me to look in a narcissistic relationship and essence it’s like looking into the mirror and nothing is looking back at you. U, good metaphor. Am ,,Should I stay or should I go” is your book about narcissism. What is, or what define someone to be a narcissist? A narcissist is, lets talk about in terms of sort of the key or kinds of pillow it’s a person who lacks empathy who is really entitled, meaning that they expect special treatment to be giving to them but nobody else They are very grandiose they harbor a huge of fantasy they only want to affiliate with people they think as cool or as interesting as they are. They are very superficial. They are very concern about their appearance and the appearance of the people around them. I’ve always thinks of them as beautiful facade with not a lot behind them. They don’t regulate their emotions very well They are very prone to thrown a tantrums, getting angry very quickly, specialy if they dont get their way and they can be really hipper sensitive to criticism So those are some of the key elements we see in a person who is narcissistic. And just because someone has one or even maybe a two of those does it make them a narcissists. In fact in my book I have 30 characteristics so we can go all the way. So then how many would I have to have to be a narcissist. I would say that six I gave you I expect to see all the six really to call someone a narcissistic and the longer list for example they tend to be jealous, they engage in something called ,,Gaslighting” where they literary doubt your own reality leaving you feeling like you are gone crazy they don’t tend to be very loyal, they do tend of throw temper tantrums, they get pleasure out of misery in other people. They are kind of mean – Lets explain Gaslighting a little more. What is that look like? Gaslighting looks like literary like I said when somebody kinds of denies your reality, so you might say something like I feel really sad that you really say that to me, and they said something like you have not rights to say that you have no rights to feel that way or they say something you are having an argument with them and they will had said something terrible to you couple of days before and you say, Listen when you said that, they will say I’ve never said that and so it’s literary like they denies your reality and when somebody says I never said that most normal people tend to question of themselves – Mmm.. And so, in fact I’ve always say one of the ringers that you’re in a relationship with the narcissist who is gaslighting you is you started to feeling the need to voice record your conversation with them so you can play it back to them,I always say when you feel like you need a voice memo in your relationship it maybe time to get out -Ok. I have been in a relationship where I thought I am gonna record our next conversation because You are just not believing that what has been said has been said. Gaslighting. Wow. But that not necessarily mean that that person was a narcissist. No that can be a lot of parts. But yeah but it could be a key indicator Yeah this is hard for a lot of people I feel like because we do in our society throw around that term all the time You know You get mad at somebody and say..well they’re being narcisist well, they want to have dinner at eight, they are narcisista, no they just want to have dinner at eight,you know…-right. so this type of factors really help people narrow it in when they’re narcisists i’m really curios on… when two narcisists date each other in your practice, you’re a clinical psichologist you talk always people what is that relationship look like? it’s basically a psichological cage fight i mean obvously..- ahahahahahha i souldn’t have been laughing, because it affects lot of people i know it’s fascinating because what ends up happening is nobody’s empathic, nobody’s listening, and they’re not playing with each other they’re kind of playing by themselves everything actually goes well for a while because they really care that the other one looks good so they can deliver on that- they only care that the other one looks good ..because it makes them look good this… this is like the guy “i need a hot girlfriend” you know .. it’s that kind of a modelo of …like.. i need to look good, my partner makes me look good so, it’s a sort of .. almost is larger than life kind of… almost toopretty couples that you sometimes…make you wonder what is a …. looking so good? don’t… don’t we want a partner who makes us look good? no. we want a partner who makes us feel good. -mmm there’s a difference. – there’s a big difference so i think that what ends up happening is that when the first time one person made up two narcisists togheter frustrates the other then it all breaks lose so it gets to be .. when the fireworks go they go.. big.in this kind of relationships i always say let the narcisists al cobreed then we kind of … get them out of normal dating supplies just don’t reproduce ok so… you have this two narcisists that are dating toghether.-right. – have you ever seen a couple each of them were a narcisist and they both admit it that they were both a narcisist.-absolutely did those relationships succeed?- no. no i’ll tell you what happens is that there’s… a point wich, i will tell you, there’s a number of people i work with who have admitted straight up “i’m a narcisist”i know it and now i can see how is affecting …usually it would be kids… or family relationships or their intimate relationships and they wanna do the work but they don’t recognize having almost childlike

100 thoughts on “These Are The Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist”

  1. The narcissists that I have been involved with don't know they are narcissists. They tend to gaslight and blame the other person…and believe themselves. They play the victim all the while stirring up drama…it's always someone else's fault.

  2. My husband and i got Married last year and we have been living happily for a while. We used to be free with everything and never kept any secret from each other until recently everything changed when he got a new Job in NewYork 2 months ago. He has been avoiding my calls and told me he is working,i got suspicious when i saw a comment of a woman on his Facebook Picture and the way he replied her. I asked my husband about it and he told me that she is co-worker in his organization,We had a big argument and he has not been picking my calls,this went on for long until one day i decided to notify my friend about this and that was how she introduced me to Mr James([email protected]) a Private Investigator  who helped her when she was having issues with her Husband. I never believed he could do it but until i gave him my husbands Mobile phone number. He proved to me by hacking into my husbands phone. where i found so many evidence and  proof in his Text messages, Emails and pictures that my husband has an affairs with another woman.i have sent all the evidence to our lawyer. I just want to thank Mr James for helping me because i have all the evidence and proof to my lawyer,I Feel so sad about infidelity.

  3. Dating one while pregnant with his child. I’ve been depressed this whole pregnancy and I feel so alone. Some of these comments are so relieving. I’m trying to let go but it is so hard. He always sucks me back in. I hate having such a big heart.😔

  4. I’m recovering from narc abuse now he left me this time this is the first time this happened I’m always doing the cutting off I’ve been through hell with him 4 years on and off. I begged him pleaded and cried for him not to leave me. And he told me “he thinks it’s best for the both of us” him leaving me this time will be the best thing he’s ever done for me in my life. The last message I sent stated “you don’t even know what you just did” 💯

  5. sounds more like teaching the narc covert manipulative tactics to use on a target rather than them actually correcting their behavior.

  6. i personally think that docrtor Ramini wished to epxerience herself through the eyes of a narcisist/psychopatch because looking at her reaction and the way she is during her interaction with the interview person is uncomfortably exciting to her

  7. They deny reality and then claim "everyone thinks you're crazy due to your behavior, etc." Personally, I would not record anyone without their knowledge as there are many states where someone could be sued. So if tempted to record, instead use it as a clue to get away from that person. People deserve to have mutual respect in relationships. Expect respect and be your own friend to help maneuver through relationship labyrinths.

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  9. All women are narcissists. Which man has never been in a relationship with a woman and not feel like start recording convos or not having any at all?

  10. Breeding IS procreating. Dr. Rement's superiority & mockery of those suffering from narcissism is unprofessional & lacking in maturity & compassion. Its shocking how she makes fun of their struggle.

  11. I suspected my wife of cheating on me but I never had any proof. This went on for months, I didn't know what to do. i was so paranoid and decided to find a solution, i saw a recommendation about a private investigator and decided to contact him. I explained the situation about my wife to him and he said he was going to help me.I gave him all the informations he required and afterwards i received all my wife’s Iphones Text messages, whatsApp messages and calls, I was hurt when i saw a picture of my wife and her lover. I feel so bad about infidelity. but i am glad Mr james was able to help me get all this information, you can contact him via Gmail (worldcyberhackers) or whatsApp : +12678773020

  12. Omgggggggg I am constantly being gas lighted I’m constantly being told I don’t have a right to feel a way woooooow. I’m currently finding my way out

  13. A narcissist will suck the life out of the non-narcissistic partner; destroying that person over time, until the are discarded after they have been used up and consumed.

  14. Slowly started to lose myself by dating a narcissist.

    Used therapy they attended against me to validate their logic.

    and uses my therapy against me.

    Never wrong

    Asks me to open up and punishes me for it.

    Denies they said stuff (had to screen shot texts or they could never be found on their end)

    Asks me to sleep over (40 minute drive) only to use the fact that its their house and kick me out over THE SMALLEST disagreement.

    Demands attention… DEMANDS it

    Gets loud but asks me if the way I am talking to them is ok when given ANY type of push back.

    Has me questioning myself and my sanity.

    Literally has me thinking that I might be a narcissist, I might be bi-polar, I might be *insert whatever mental health issue she decides to use against me*.

    Stayed on dating sites our entire relationship and made me feel like I’m being stupid for expecting her to respect me enough and get off them.

    Admits it would bother her and stays on them.

    Accused me of cheating ALL THE TIME because her psychic told her I still have another woman in my life that may be important to me who is blonde with blue eyes.

    The mother of my child is blonde with blue eyes…. Shakes head

    “No thats not who she was talking about”
    when approached with why the “psychic” must have said that.

    I feel down, dislike myself, questioning myself and I don’t trust anyone anymore.

    I have never felt this way after someone before.

    There’s more but at this point. What the hell was I thinking and am I a narcissist?

    Am I the problem?

  15. I just got out of a horrible relationship with a narcissist. She literally had to look thru my phone every night just because n then when I went out of town for work I was told I had to call her every morning n the minute I got off work. If I didn't she automatically assumed I was cheating. Never wrong, always a double standard with her. I pray that if your in one now, run away n never look back. Dont do it too yourself

  16. Lol this is unreal. This video is like word for word what I went through. Worst 10 months of my life to the point where I had severe anxiety and had to take time off of work.

  17. Narcissist dont have self esteem and its hard to lift other up when you dont feel you are worth something. Really mean but not sorry.

  18. 23 years wasted. Wish I had known about gas lighting back then. Really does make you question yourself. You get to the point of writing things down and recording stuff. When you prove something to them they go, “who the f are you to record that? Did I give you permission?” You can’t win. Dump them before kids get involved. Wish I had known.

  19. I do feel the urge to control my relationship especially with my g.f but i want her to be happy too , and I am worried about her too.😉

  20. I have a solid theory but it sounds potentially sexist but forget PC. Male or female, narcissism is super hyper feminine energy. Doctors explain it like children but children don't fuck people or have sex. Children be that boy or girl should and will possess an element of innocence where as narcissist act as they do. It's what we fall in love with. This letting of the hair down, that they are them selves around you. True selves. However, male or female hypergamously, they just aren't looking for more compatibility, or better deal, they seek to secure leverage. The narcissist is like a woman scorn, pre break up and the whole relationship is rigged with explosives ready at the trigger or whim of your partner. They can't just leave graciously… It's a 9/11 disaster they bravely survived. Narcissist can be combated with pure masculine energy. Women you can use it too. Get icy. Super frosty. Don't react. Don't ah ha with evidence. Make a goal them pursue it. Be ambitious. Laugh hard when they are in the next room and calm down when they enter. Have business discussions only around them. No talking to your friends and family in their presence. Do not cheat. Do not try to make them jealous. Serve and keep to this. Now, my narc hatred this. Men are straight forward when discussing business. No open ended responses. When a narc says they are right… Agree with them they are right. Your brain will enjoy they argument is over and additionally it pisses off your narc because they start the argument with you because it helps them get off sexually. Being mad at you motivates them to fix the problem they started. Yeah. Dumb right. Next after 30 days off doing this… Have a one on one. Drive somewhere quiet, way off the road, but no place with sudden heights cliffs or drops. No crazy ideas. Narcs are them selves best when they have no audience. Ok. Have them define the parameters of a good relationship. Do not listen to their answer, pay attention to their will wisdom. Does it teach you anything of value? Pay attention if they ask you questions towards your feelings and if they affected them and their train of thoughts. My narc fessed up she was a whore, that it's already been open in her eyes. They are not religious as they claimed. Surprisingly in her delivery she seemed confused she was telling me this and I felt bad for her. I ended it. Not the cheating. Not the exes. It was her mom. The things she explained about her mom discouraged me from trying. Her mom breeded a narc so ingrained, she can't love. Had never known love only leverage and it's these people who truly believe in fear, leverage and transaction you just can't love. Because they will never get married, because in their head every person they slept with was a spouse. That's why it's not cheating. They see it as the one, each and every one is the one, which is why to them, no one gets special treatment but them. So if you want to break the narcs spell, kill the witch. Confront who made them this way. If they witness you stand up for them and how it's affected your relationship.. It breaks the spell. Narcs are not bad. They are doing their Masters bidding. Done

  21. “The narcissist isn’t experiencing any discomfort himself yet he destroys all the people around him but never self reflects on his own behaviour” DUDE, if this isn’t the truest thing I’ve ever heard. This encompasses how evil and damaging it truly is to love a narcissist.

  22. “People think that if you just love them more they will change but a narcissist will never change because they don’t even believe they need to change. Wishing they will change is just a fantasy” wow this really hit me hard. Because it’s what I’ve always known deep down but have been to scared to admit to myself out loud, I preferred to stay in the delusional fantasy but I know he will never change and I’m only destroying myself by waiting. It’s so hard to let go 🙁

  23. My partner used sex as a means of getting into my life and out of the horrible place he was living. Once he moved in with me he cut me off from all the intimacy that was so prevalent at the start. He even places a pillow between us in the bed so I sleep on the couch in my own house. Is this sexual manipulation a trait of narcissists?

  24. I love you for this! Right on point. She must have dated one! They are so good at pulling you in, it’s amazing. Check your friends ASAP. They are terrible evil people and my ex is ruining my sons relationship with me. She has put me through hell and I finally am winning. I had an awakening over Christmas after she took my son to Florida over a fake case. Just to leave. I would have let her for second time. But it was different this time and she was going to stay. Straight to jail I went after watching Thomas the train with my son. She’s so good I had no idea at who she was. She met her match now. I can’t destroyer her because who will my son call mommy. I love her. I did . I loved her even more. I can’t listen to this without crying. Good dad trying to stand the fuck up to this horseshit because it ruined so many relationships of mine that I had long before her. Again I say thank you for this. I’m not going to edit and left so much out. My hands are shaking as crying with my son sleeping on his bed. I wish you knew just how much this had affected me. I have gone way farther than I ever would have in my life with this. I have try my best to stay away but now that I’m getting better I find myself throwing it in her face. My child support is paid into next year and i got my parenting time. I don’t like giving up on anyone and certainly don’t but now I realize you can’t fix this I don’t care. That’s part of it too. Give up and say give up now in the name of god. He wouldn’t stand for this. As a light worker, I’d light to formally raise my fist in the air and gladly will join the fight against the darkness of night. Thoth…. Thoth ….Thoth…….the warning is out.

  25. I wish I known this before having children with them. I never was heard and still won't Be. The parenting of this person was not great, to much indulgent. I only trained him to be on time. I'm happy I learned empathy from others because both my parents are narcissist. I was that 1% but I'm not living like that at all . This really helped me. Thank you.

  26. What's crazy is that the doctor in the redshirt is a narcissist. And what's even crazier is no one else here seems to notice that

  27. This was so helpful. I watched your Red Table discussion and was so impacted by it! I’m definitely a recovering covert narcissist, who spent 15 years in a relationship with someone who was very much overt with his narcissism. Toxicity amplified. We have parted ways and my son spent a few years living primarily with his father (13-16) and now he’s back full time with me. My son is exhibiting signs of narcissistic behaviour and I’m quite concerned. His outbursts at now 17 when he doesn’t get his way or hears no, is so extreme and visceral. I”m not sure how to deal with it. Could you provide me with some reference material?

  28. Oh. My. Gosh. This talk is blowing my entire mind.
    What would my life have been like if I'd seen this two decades ago?
    I take full responsibility for being an empath, people pleaser, now I know Belle from Beauty and the Beast, ha. I'm no victim.
    But I do wish I'd had this information when I was younger.
    Thank you for this video. I literally took notes and will need to watch it again. Thank you!!!

  29. Funny. All the, comments I’ve read in this video are from narcissistic females. Complaining about dealing with the. Narcissistic ex boyfriend…Lolll😂.

  30. I have known many narcissistic men. I can easily detect them. Fortunately, I was able to teach few of them lessons they will never ever forget!

  31. I know a guy who was a narcissist because his father would beat him as a child and never appreciate him. He always struggled to get his validation but without any success. He became violent to his classmates at primary school by copying his father.

  32. How can you manage your expectations if you expect from your narcissistic mother to finally love you unconditionally, but she is not capable of doing it? I have restricted my discussion topics to the weather, interior design and travels with her. She was always off and distracted but she would still come to games, theater nights and the like. Only participated in the external activities but we never sat down to talk about our feelings.

  33. I was married to a narcissist and I may well be fairly narcissistic in my own right. In a sense I am but then other traits of mine defy that. I'm still fairly hurt distrustful of my self to even choose a target to hit on .I'm a position player letting my targets hit on me by being visible, available eye contact and casual conversation are my gambit. Dr Ramani is quite animated and her motion is arousing to me stimulating my desire to cease my celibacy.

  34. I dated a narcissist once… worst person I ever dated tbh! The second we chatted he kept bragging about work and his talents, beyond that he rarely apologized especially when he accidentally hurt my arm, I always felt there was no empathy in him. Always said mean things and even criticized so many of his co workers, my favorite was when he threw a tantrum because his father told him to get rid of something he loved or give it to his sister…
    He was a narcissist jerk and I got out after a month, I won't accept someone that tells me what to do and expects me to obey when they don't bother to take my advice. His ego was SO huge… I'm not sure why I dated him 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

  35. This interviewer should really educate himself before doing this interview so he doesn't ask so many retarded questions that an 8 year old would know the answer to. Its stupid he acts like this is such new information but its not and he's an idiot.

  36. Recently got out of a relationship with someone and everything except for one thing, are so on point, but at the end when Dr. Ramani talked about kids of narcissistic is more likey to choose a part of the same kind and the pleasing game, that hit hard

  37. A question ????.What if one parent is loving and encouraging and the other parent is a narcsistic person ….how does it effect the child ???

  38. I've had a lot of narcs in my life and you said we pay them more attention then the loving people and it reminded me of my brother .Christmas presents I brought blankets for my brother's and sister one year and I gave the nicest blanket fi my brother who'd a nark .quite worrying really x

  39. This video scared the crap out of me. It describes my sons dad to the T and all the awful things he’s put me through. It also gave me some comfort to know I wasn’t necessarily the problem and there is nothing I could have done to fix things or be good enough for him.

  40. I wish I’d known this about my ex-boyfriend/husband of 7 years. I had no idea there were people this cruel and I always second -guessed myself. I actual;y taped recorded his phone conversation and purchased a voice activated tape recorder to prove to him that he said what he said.

  41. Hubby was a narcissist. Ok still is but the last two years have been great. The gaslighting has all but stopped and I dont feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I have a problem that needs to be addressed. But she is right it is constant work on both our parts. I got lucky because he knew he had a problem. And was willing to make big changes. Also because I refused to accept that the problem was just me even when it seemed to be the only thing he would adress in a situation. I wouldn't even argue or discuss a problem unless he could find his part in some of blame instead of just saying what I did wrong. Then we could adress together what both of us needed to do to make it better.

  42. That’s right Narcs Mum gave into his every wish would only eat certain foods she did everything for him up till he was 29 praised him for doing nothing. needless to say now at 34 he’s back with her! Lol she can have him.

  43. Woah…. so many things she touched on, were things i dealt with in my previous relationship. had to cut that off after too long.

    Be with someone that treats you well.
    Stay blessed & stay strong, everybody

  44. Can you address the effects of childhood trauma causing the child to abandon their emotions and how that can cause narcissism?

  45. I have been with a guy for 14 years who has been diagnosed as being “charismatic narcissistic”…. and it helps me so much to listen to all of your videos. Thank you so much for sharing them here for people like me.

  46. I think all the men in my life that I've been close to have been narcissists. Except for my brother. My dad def was, and the men I chose to give of myself and love were as well. I've had offers from good, stable, emotionally in touch with themselves men but ran from them… and they were friends I'd had for years. I didn't know how to cope with their honesty, attention, admiration and love. It made me uncomfortable and scared. I remember thinking 'but what do I have to offer you because there's nothing wrong with you, I can't help you. Messed up aye. I'm an empath and am always drawn to healing…. Yet I put myself in situations that end up tearing me apart. It's me, as well as any narc that needs to balance and heal whatever is ingrained in me to be attracted to these types of men.

  47. Listening to your videos has helped me forgive my self! And start to move on in my life… I actually started therapy how emotionally it was damaging and how much heartbreak I had with this person.

  48. Question to everyone or anyone : is it just to their partner they are horrible to or to everybody or they pick on one person and isolate him/her and become horrible to that person?

  49. As long you seek approval of man, you will never know your value. Whatever part you play, your value does not come from man, it does not come your family friends or job. It does not even come from within or yourself, but from directly above. The Righteous King who died for sinners to make them Holy. What these broken sinners need is to know that Messiah Yeshua has given his life for them and that they can come to him and receive a new heart and spirit.

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